This past week was definitely rough. Classes are finally in full swing, I've been super busy at work, and sailing is starting up again.
Even though I only had about 2.5 weeks off from school, and I worked almost every day, I had so much fun over winter break and a lot of time to relax. The highlight of all of these breaks (Thanksgiving, Christmas, and so on) is that Cam comes home. I get to know that I'll walk into work and see him, or the word of the day he leaves on my white board. And that after work, and after school pick-up for my siblings, I get to eat a yummy dinner (that he cooked) and watch Bones. So whenever he leaves (in this case, last weekend) I basically say to myself "okay, it's back to reality" and it always just feels like something is missing.
It's not easy living at home and working every day while also being a full time student. And when the only person who can really put you at ease goes 4 hours away for a loooooong period of time, it kind of sucks.
We all have to learn how to deal with things that we may not enjoy, or things that we just want to be over with already. We have to learn how to keep trudging through the mud even though it would be so much easier to just stop in our tracks.
I don't have a conventional "college experience". I don't live on campus, and I'm only at school 2 days a week. I have to work full time so it's not easy for me to be super involved in clubs, greek life, or sports. I do my best to keep up with sailing but even that gets really hard sometimes.
So, when I feel high-strung and like I just want to sleep all day and avoid all responsibilities (I'm sure I'm not alone in that feeling), I do a few different things to keep myself moving forward. Now, I just want to be clear that this list is really more made up of things that can help you push your "reset" button. De-stressing and taking a break is just as important and productive as doing work.
Spend quality time with family // Whenever I'm struggling to keep up and feel overwhelmed, I go to my little brother first. He's one of my best friends (even though he's only 9) and he never fails to cheer me up. Whether we just sit and talk, play his favorite games, or I read to him before bed, I always feel better afterwards. It's hard to find time to go out and do fun things together since I work so much, so even those 10-30 minutes at home make a world of a difference to me.
Snuggle with your pet // Oliver, my one year old puppy, is honestly a little monster. He is so much work, and causes me a lot of stress that would normally not help my situation, but he definitely makes up for it when he's calm and snuggly. If I'm feeling overwhelmed but am under a time crunch, I grab Ollie and have him cuddle up next to me while I do my work. Having him right there calms me down and gives me a good (and welcomed) distraction every time he tries pressing the keys on my laptop.
Facetime or call your best friend // I know that the moment I start to panic or get really upset, I automatically turn to my phone to call Cam. Sometimes you just can't calm yourself down, and you need to hear someone telling you that it's all going to be okay. Especially when you have that time to Facetime or talk on the phone rather than texting with someone you really miss, you end up feeling even better. I know that after talking to Carrie (and Sharon and Michael), and Cam I feel like I can just about tackle anything that may come at me.
Take a hot bath/shower // At the end of a really long day, nothing feels better than taking a hot bath (with a Lush bathbomb of course) or a nice hot shower. It's so relaxing, it relieves headaches, and you have time to just relax and clear your head with no disruptions.
Take time for yourself // Even though sometimes it's important to have someone to help you get through hard times, you should always know that you have yourself to rely on. Take some time (even if it's only a little bit every day) to just be by yourself. Whether you knit, read, watch Netflix, or go for a drive, just do something that fulfills you.